How to tell if someone is lying to you

How to tell if someone is lying to you

There are many ways to find out how to tell if someone is lying to you.  Did you know that around 55% of lies can be spotted immediately. If you are an extrovert you generally tell more lies than an introvert. So how to tell if someone is lying to you.

The average person will hear between 10 and 200 lies per day. However do we know how to tell if someone is lying to you.

We all tell white lies from time to time and we think we can get away with it. But this is not always the case. Below are some tips to find out if someone is lying to you without using a lie dector test!

The list below is for general information and never assume the person is lying until you have all the facts.

 

How to tell if someone is lying to you

How to tell if someone is lying to you…..

 

The voice will change

Often a person who is lying their voice or their mannerisms will start to change when a lie is in progress. Also look out for how they are breathing.  Their shoulders will rise and you will note that the voice may get shallower. This is because they are out of breath due to the heart rate and blood flow changing, this will make the person feel nervous and tense.

 

They add more detail

Another way of how to tell if someone is lying to you is by the fact they add more detail  Instead of a simple yes or no they will go into great detail about the subject far more than a person who is speaking the truth would do. This is because they have to make things up on the spot and may tend to exaggerate details to make them feel they are telling the truth. You will see a pattern emerging as they will often repeat words or phrases. By repeating the same phrases eg ‘I did not do that’ they are giving themselves times to gather all their thoughts. If you are faced with this situation ask the person follow-up questions and note that they will often try to stall on responding as they are trying to think of what to say next.

 

Pointing their finger at you

Liars will point their fingers at you (or something nearby) as a signal to take the focus off a person and onto someone else. This is good giveaway that someone is lying. Also it has been said that if someone points their finger in a different direction other than the way their eyes are looking they could also be telling a lie.

How to tell if someone is lying to you

 

They fidget

If someone is lying they often perform a random action that is not necessary. For example if you were speaking to someone who you thought was lying and they kept cleaning their glasses repeatedly or picking dust off their clothes (for example)this could mean they are feeling guilty and anxious which in turn makes the person restless. This can be true if the person is lying to a loved one as the person will be unable to sit still.

They will touch or cover their mouth

If a person is lying they will automatically place their hands over their mouth as to avoid dealing with an issue or to answer a question. By putting their hands over their lips it means they will not be revealing anything and simply just want to avoid the truth. By doing this it simply means they are closing off any communication.

 How to tell if someone is lying to you

Look at their eyes

Most humans blink around 5 times a minute or around every 10 seconds. But if someone is lying and stressed they may blink five or six times in quick succession.

Also check to see if they maintain eye contact while they are speaking to you and telling you the story. Most people break eye contact and look towards a non moving object while they are trying to access the memories of a situation but if they do not break eye contact int his way they could be making up a story instead of remember what really occurred.

When someone is lying their eyes will often go up to the right hand side. The left side will mean that the person is trying to remember something while a movement in the opposite direction simply means they are lying and about to make something up.

I hope you find these tips useful and that is not a lie!

  1. Hi OTHAUTR,

    Interesting reading. I’ve always been a bit suspicious of ‘lying’ tells but I think the biggest flag is whether it feels right or not. Subconsciously we can pick up on loads that could be micro-gestures or changes to the norm and that helps us recognise when something is wrong.

    🙂

    The Reverend

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